I have found difficult the stares. I know people are curious, but some are very indiscreet.
I don’t really like seeing pictures of myself now and dread when people want to take group photos.
I have still difficulty eating, drinking, and speaking. I’m having speech therapy and weekly hands-on physiotherapy to improve the flexibility in my mouth and cheek.
Those are all big enough challenges on their own. But the biggest challenge has been coming to terms with how my face has changed because of so many interventions and operations. Hopefully I will accept my new face in the future, but even though I’m trying, I am not there yet.
Things are improving, slowly but surely. Until now, I just went with the flow of the rollercoaster and really felt in a different dimension than others – my life was mainly hospital appointments, operations, recovery. But now, my confidence is growing, I feel more together and my outings are less stressful. I feel stronger and upwards on the recovery.
I have been lucky enough to feel very supported by so many wonderful people during this process of ups and downs. My mum came with me to almost all appointments and treatments. I’ve been very lucky to have crossed paths with two incredible surgeons and two superb physios. I had tons of friends and family writing, calling and praying for me, from all religions in the UK, Spain and other countries, I feel very loved throughout. Special thanks to those who took me out and listened to my ups and downs. My workplace has also been so supportive and patient, I'm super grateful.
I’m taking life one day at the time, trying to get me and my confidence back. I dream of early retirement and travelling. I understood that life is not guaranteed, and you never know what’s around the corner.
I can’t put into words the impact of my scars on my life and the ripple effect on the lives of my family & friends.
I have lost my confidence and spark, as I’m so conscious of my visual difference, I feel in the last 4 years, part of me has disappeared. I’m trying to find myself again.